Author Archives: Kathleen Silber

Why Open Adoption Agreements?

By Kathleen Silber | Published 07/01/2010

Imagine that, in their excitement before the birth of the baby, adoptive parents tell the birthmother “Get in touch anytime.” They are thinking about receiving a few emails while she interprets “anytime” to mean monthly visits. These very different ideas about open adoption can cause anger and disappointment on both sides.
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Helping Your Extended Family Understand Open Adoption

By Kathleen Silber | Published 06/10/2010

Adopting parents frequently tell us that their extended family members are negative or anxious about the idea of an open adoption. How do you help them get on board?
It’s important to remember that your parents are from a different generation where closed adoption and secrecy were the norm. In the past birthmothers were [...]

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Discussing Adoption with School Age Children

By Kathleen Silber | Published 05/28/2010

A child’s understanding of adoption increases during the school age years. Assuming that parents introduced the subject of adoption and talked openly about it (in a simple manner) during the pre-school years, now they can focus on the circumstances of why the birthparents made an adoption plan. As in the pre-school years, they [...]

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Discussing Adoption with Pre-School Age Children

By Kathleen Silber | Published 05/21/2010

Pre-school age children do not yet have the capacity to understand adoption. However, there are several very important reasons for introducing the subject at this age:

From the beginning, adoption should be a household word and subject that is discussed comfortably in the home.
Talking openly about adoption aids in the adoptive parents’ comfort level with this [...]

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Birthmother’s Day: May 8th, 2010

By Kathleen Silber | Published 04/26/2010

Birthmother’s Day is a celebration of the special role of birthmothers and the loving and unselfish decision they made on behalf of their children. Mother’s Day is painful for many birthmothers because it is a reminder of the loss they experienced in adoption. She is a birthmother but not a mom—the adoptive mother is [...]

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